A Year and a Day: Divorce without Destruction

Jan 28, 2020 | Before You Separate

All too often when we think about divorce, we think of The War of the Roses—two spouses who will stop at nothing to “win,” even if it means destroying the other spouse in the process. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Divorce doesn’t have to be destructive.

In 2017, I decided to create a podcast to provide information and tips for getting through a separation and divorce without destroying family relationships or the family finances. Episodes include conversations with divorce‑related professionals, such as psychologists, lawyers, and mediators, and cover topics relevant to separation and divorce. 

In North Carolina, where I am licensed to practice law, spouses must be separated for a year and a day in order to file for divorce, hence the name of my podcast, A Year and a Day, and now my book. That year is a critical time during which important decisions must be made (either by the spouses or the court) with respect to where the children will live, how the couple’s assets and debts will be divided, and how much child support and alimony will be paid. 

In large part, this book is based upon episodes of the podcast. As you read the book, please keep in mind that while some of the information presented is universal, laws may differ in other states. If you are contemplating separation, before you take any action you should consult with a lawyer who is licensed in your state. 

Order A Year and a Day: Divorce without Destruction here.